Peekers – The Curious Case of Neither-Out-Nor-Closeted People

Peekers can be couples too. They are the classic “Best friends” to the outside world, who put up pictures on insta everyday #Closefriend #Bestie, only to be hanging out with their gay friends at a pub in the weekend, snuggle together in the bed. They don’t like to party or join in for a meet-up with the rest of the crowd, but wish to have a close circle who knows them well. They aren’t open, nor are they closeted.

May be we need this “Gray area” to realize that “coming out” isn’t an event, but a process. Coming out need not be a grand gesture, but a series of baby steps. May be we need this term to acknowledge those of us, who prefer to stay in the canoe between the islands. The Peekers have their own issues. They are always afraid if they will be seen with the open crowd. They peek to see if anyone else they know are peeking, that they know of, and the chances of getting exposed. Peekers have the desire to find a man, but are disinterested in being known to the crowd. Peekers have only occasional time, or liberty to be in the scene. May be Peekers just don’t fit in. They have to be careful who they should add as friends, if they are texting too many men, if they are flirting with their colleague or if they are sleeping with their future brother in law.

Being a Peeker