Visibility definitely gives you better acceptance. If the world knows that we are everywhere and that we co-exist just like everyone else, it might be more accepting.
I wish I could be as colour blind; I guess life will be easier. But I do not have that privilege, my brown self follows me, clings to me, like the aroma of my Bengali cooking does to my winter coat. So it is not possible for me to talk about my gender and gender presentation without talking about my race.
My gender identity issues started since I was only three or four. I always wanted to dress up like a boy. I identified myself as a male person. My mother never understood me and thought something was wrong with me.
Homophobic jokes have become a part of everybody’s lives, because people end up using them consciously or unconsciously, because society questions the sexuality of someone who opposes such demeaning things, because ‘gay’, ‘homo’ and ‘hijra’ are used as derogatory terms.
Gurgaon’s Queer Pride is not a region specific pride, it’s laying the first stepping stones to create public spaces that embrace people of many colors.
I ask of you to think of the families that lost their loved ones- the gay bar had straight people partying away till wee hours in the morning too- all lives matter. It may have happened in Orlando, but it could happen anywhere and from any angle at a place closer to you.
Through my personal journey I have realized the world may be cruel at times. It’s difficult to be different, yet to survive in the society, but being in the closet is extremely suffocating, lonely, and hopeless.
For us to be treated as equals, our legal system must acknowledge our existence not merely as a ‘minuscule minority’ that doesn’t matter. Only then can all of us step out of anonymity.
My phone was taken away from me, my grandfather wasn’t talking to me while my sister and mother were behaving rudely with me. I took out a rope and tied it to the ceiling fan.
One of my closest friends was disowned by his family for being gay. He tried to kill himself, and nearly succeeded. It was one of the most terrifying days of my life.