Many gay men are into Bondage and Discipline. Bondage implies domination. So what do guys who need bondage do? Here are some things they like:
- Being tied up and receving oral sex.
- Having their body licked and caressed.
- Performing oral sex
- Receiving anal sex
Other men prefer being the dominator. They like to handcuff their partner or tie him tightly to the bedpost (remember Basic Instinct?).The domination can be gentle, teasing or rough.
In case you are into the bondage scene, what should you use? Some men use silk or satin ties. Some wrap leather thongs around their neck. Some use telephone or electrical wiring, bedsheets and towels. I would never advice anyone to use things which can hurt anyone.
Before you decide to role play make sure you develop the rules for the game.
- Choose someone trustworthy to tie you up. Watch Pulp Fiction to get an idea of what I am talking about.
- Avoid using a body glove. You may find it very tensing.
- Have a signal to indicate the smallest level of discomfort so that the dominator can stop right away.
And what is Discipline?
Discipline can consist of anything from insults and verbal abuse by the master to his slave. Again, as with Domination, all this has to be acceptable to the slave or the dominee.
If you meet a stranger and he tries to buttonhole you into B&D refuse right away. Don`t bother giving any explanation. B&D is for a gay couple who is in a committed relationship. It has no place in one night stands.